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Why Trying To Fix Him Never Works!
Why love cannot force a partner to change
Can loving someone make them change? This Search 185 Short challenges the idea of a "fixer-upper" partner and explains why personal change requires the person's own willingness, rather than a partner's care alone.
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[0:00] You can't love him into making him
[0:04] change. But um don't don't go looking
[0:08] for a man that's a fixer upper. And what
[0:11] I mean by that is like you know fixer
[0:14] uppers are good for cards and I but men
[0:17] man they're hard to be molded into what
[0:21] you want them to be.
[0:22] >> A man's not going to change if he
[0:24] doesn't want to.
[0:25] >> Sure. And I think a lot of times women
[0:26] go into relationships saying, you know,
[0:28] yeah, he's broken, you know, but it's
[0:30] kind of finding like that lost puppy,
[0:32] right? You just don't know what that
[0:33] dog's going to turn out like once you
[0:35] start raising them. So, you don't go out
[0:37] there looking and feeling sorry for
[0:39] these guys that are broken.
[0:41] >> They're broken for a reason. What I'm
[0:42] saying is you need to be aware that if
[0:45] you're going to go find and you fall in
[0:47] love with a guy that's broken, that if
[0:50] he doesn't want to be repaired,
[0:52] >> Yeah.
[0:52] >> he's not going to do it. You can't love
[0:54] him into making him to change. Now,
[0:59] >> say that again so people can hear that.
[1:02] >> You can't love him into making him
[1:05] change. You can love him all you want,
[1:07] but if he in his heart is not ready to
[1:11] change or he doesn't think he needs to
[1:12] change. There's men out there, they're
[1:14] like, you know, I'm fine the way I am.
[1:16] If you're going to marry me, you're
[1:18] going to marry me the way I am, you
[1:19] know, and this is this is what you've
[1:21] got. And and some women think, well, you
[1:24] know, I'll just I'll make sure that, you
[1:25] know, I take care of him, I love on him,
[1:27] and everything else and and he'll
[1:29] change. And it's like, no, if you don't
[1:32] want to change, it's not going to